The ultimate goal of a partnered sexual encounter and popular myth fueled by movie scenes, mutual orgasms don’t rear their head very often, mainly because of the difference in timing that occurs between men and women’s orgasms. It’s difficult, but not impossible, and you can increase your chances with the right moves.
- Speed things up
It’s always the man who seems like he is in a hurry to get to the finish line, but he doesn’t have to cross it alone, if he takes the time to help his partner speed up the pace of her own pleasure. Introducing a toy, such as a vibrator, into your sex life, can do wonders for her orgasm and the speed at which she gets there. Better yet, stimulate her in multiple ways at the same time, with the help of the toy, to cut down on the time it takes her to reach climax.
- Slow things down
Given the fact that women usually take longer to climax, the couple may get positive results if they slow the pace a little bit. Or at least, he does. Holding out is not the easiest task in the world, but he can delay his own orgasm by not engaging in overly-vigorous penetration and focusing on her pleasure, until she’s ready to go. Only can he get his own release.
Let’s get scientific. By following simple math, your probability for a mutual orgasm increases, the more orgasms you produce in each other. So basically, the more orgasms the both of you have, the more likely you are that you end up climaxing together, by sheer statistical probability. So work at it and give each other multiple orgasms and you should absolutely get to have one together. It’s science!
1. Ladies first
Nice guys always finish last, if they care about their lady’s pleasure. By focusing on you for the first part of the act and getting you to have an orgasm, the first step towards multiples has already been made. Climaxing first offers you plenty of time and stimulation to get the chance of doing it again, while he’s chasing his own orgasm.
2. Relax, take it easy
The song lyrics couldn’t be truer. The key to any orgasm, let alone multiple, is to relax. It may seem like a no-brainer to some, but more often than not, women, especially, are so determined to get there, that they end up missing out because of stress or the pressure they put on themselves.
3. Think about something else
No, the suggestion is not to make a mental grocery list while ignoring your partner, but rather not making the multiple-orgasm goal the focus of your sexual encounter. Focus on the experience, instead, on your partner and on how they are making you feel. Don’t forget that enjoying yourselves is the purpose here, and that you’re not competing in the Orgasm Olympics.
Ok, so you know that this-and-that position can make you orgasm, but who knows how many others can help you achieve that performance? You never know how it will make you feel, until you try it, which is why it is important (and healthy!) to change it up and try new things. When something is not working for you or you’re stuck in a sexual rut, flip things around, modify positions and experiment with what feels good.
5. Toy story
Toys are not only for the kinky or adventurous, and they can prove themselves to be indispensable tools in your multiple-orgasm pursuit. Not that you can’t achieve multiples without them, but they can definitely introduce you to new sensations and bring you to unexplored heights of pleasure.
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1. Don’t skip the foreplay
A prolonged foreplay is an annoyance to some, especially if you’re the impatient type that just wants to “get to the good part”. However, engaging in a long foreplay not only stimulates you to the maximum, but it also prolongs the anticipation, and that can be one of the key factors in achieving incredible orgasms. The longer you wait and tease and postpone the big moment, the more you build up the anticipation, which makes the final release that more spectacular, precisely because you’ve been waiting for so long.
2. Give instructions
It may not sound terribly sexy, but giving your partner instructions on your soft spots and showing him how to touch you is the best way to achieve mind-blowing results. Feedback is the key to an improved experience, here. As they say, “Different strokes for different folks” and you can’t expect your partner to know exactly what you like and how you like it, unless you get involved by telling them, showing them or even placing their hands where you want them. They will be grateful for the tips and you will benefit from it again and again and again.
3. Do it yourself
Of course, in order to know what you like and be able to instruct your partner accordingly, you have to do a little experimentation, and try different things, first. And we’re not talking about sleeping around (although that might work for some!), but about taking some time for yourself and learning what, exactly, produces an orgasm and how you can build upon that. You obviously can’t teach others how to make you orgasm, without knowing how to do it, yourself, can you? So it only makes sense that learning this on your own would be the first step to good orgasm and a great sex life.
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